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If you feel the same way as this man does, would you please talk to the others for us?
A Brother's Grief
I need some help, or advice from someone and I don't know who to talk to. A few days ago it was confirmed to me that my stepfather abused his daughter, his real daughter, my stepsister. Apparently, I was in the home when it started, but I left for the military unaware of what was happening. While I served, the accusations were made and I did something I can't forgive myself for. I did not believe her. I didn't even do her the courtesy of questioning her. I thought about it a little, sure, dismissing it almost immediately as her deranged fantasy about this man who was great. He taught me how to fish and even adopted me formally when I was 12. He couldn't have done that.
It is the worst mistake I have ever made, and the worst thing I have ever done to another human being. All that and I did nothing to find out what really happened until this week. What does that say about me?
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I stood today at the top of the rise
And the playa of my soul spread out before me
In alternating bands of gray and green
Delineating years both sere and ripe.
I surveyed them all, each one,
With eyes burning and dry from years of
Anger too bitter to cry about and
Despair too deep to admit the light of reason.
My wings were the wings of archangels
And my shoulders were too tired
to bear them any longer -
They dragged behind me in the dust
Trailing by one thin thread
lashed to my Achilles heel.
It was for me the end of war
And in that moment I saw that I was home
For the first time.
At home in my own life.
And it was mercy, then, that brought the tears.
- Another Mother, 2013
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