In Recognition of Incest Survivors (IRIS)
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  • The Bill of Rights
    • One: we have the right to be safe.
    • Two: we have the right to be heard.
    • Three: we have the right to be believed.
    • Four: we have the right to be angry.
    • Five: we have the right to grieve.
    • Six: we have the right to heal.
    • Seven: we have the right to set appropriate boundaries.
    • Eight: we have the right to choose if or how to confront the perpetrator.
    • Nine: we have the right to a joyful, fulfilling sex life with someone we trust.
    • Ten: we have the right to a loving, supportive family.
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Voices

In a house of incest, the first thing we lose is our right to safety.  The second precious right we lose is our voice. 

After we live through the hell of disclosure and begin the painful journey of healing, we finally find that voice and begin to speak, sometimes for  the first time.  We speak of the anger that has been denied to us and the grief we were forced to suppress during the abuse.  We speak with hope of the human rights we are beginning to claim and the lessons that we are learning about the fierce freedom of truth. 

Sharing our voices with others
empowers us and inspires those who read our words.  
 
It is a mighty gift that must be wielded with care.  We have learned the right to be heard is not always honored by the people and institutions around us. We have learned that we must take responsibility to use our voices in ways that allow people to hear the message. We speak with passion, but respectfully. We speak with emotion, but from a place of reason.  We raise our voices, but not in hysteria.  We persist when rebuffed, but not obsessively – we know when to give up and move on. 

Not everyone is ready to hear what we have to say.

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Listen
the meaning of your life is the story you tell yourself about your life

make it a true one
Listen
 
Choose
choose the path that
demands everything within you every day that you choose it

choose the path that makes you feel most alive

choose the path that risks
everything
Choose

 
Live
live as if your path is directly
connected to the source of the real meaning of your life

as if you are a torch that never flickers

or a spark that can be seen from other galaxies
Live

 
Tell yourself a story
Tell yourself a story
about your life
Make it a true one
- Another Mother, 2013

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Another Mother's Voice


Queer Voices


Media Voices


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